Sunday, October 21, 2012

July 20-Now (October 7, 2012)-The First Three Months of Married Life


     Looking back at my blog today, I realized that August and September escaped  without my written notice. Sorry about that for those of you who check in at my blog now and again to see if I’m still around. J  I’m alive and well, praise the Lord, but it’s definitely been a very exciting three months starting with my children almost leaving to go live with their dad and step-mom in Alabama and eventually working something out with my ex, so that they all stayed, at least for another school year, I think. Then with the start up of school, busy days at work, volunteer duties picking back up (yes, I’m still teaching Sunday School, serving on the board of the PTO, and helping out with 4-H clubs here on island), I don’t really even remember September, although I will say the honeymoon continues.  My husband and I are transitioning from being weekend warriors, so to speak, to being together 24 /7, but we couldn’t be happier to just be on the same island and in the same household, finally!!  We’ve been through so much as a couple and a family already, that it only seemed natural to unite our lives even more fully to tackle the challenges and experience the joy of living in this world together for the rest of our lives. Unfortunately, we haven’t had a chance to go on that honeymoon yet, although just living in the same house often feels like a honeymoon to me. Previously, we only got to be together every day when we were on vacations, so I guess you could say, we have remained in a mini-vacation mode the past 3 months. During that time, we’ve cleaned out and reorganized the house, making room for my husband’s stuff due to arrive on the barge from his island any day now, we hope, and we’ve attempted to begin figuring out a family budget, particularly in the area of food purchases. My magnificent chef of a husband has worked hard on a rotating menu plan, which cut our grocery bills by at least a fourth. Knowing what exactly to buy, according to the menu for the week, and not overbuying on things we end up not eating before they go bad made a bigger difference than I ever realized it could.  As we all learn and grow together as a family, life moves on. The boys both have birthdays coming up soon, and they will be 9 and 11. I can’t believe it. The summer itself has shown how much they’ve grown in maturity, not needing my help as much with school work and being old enough and responsible enough to hang out around the island with friends and needing minimal adult supervision.  Most importantly, they are both healthy and happy, which is a very big deal, considering all they have been through the past several years.  One thing I have learned through it all is to take it one day at a time and enjoy every moment possible in the now, not worrying about the future until it comes. I’ve said this before in my blog, knowing it was right, but allowing myself to worry anyway, so now I am learning to really let go of that worry and fear about what might happen in the future because when I think I know what’s next, everything changes, and that’s okay…God’s in charge, keeping His children’s best interest always at heart.  

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